Sunday, June 07, 2009

to one of the greatest men i knew

i can't believe that you're gone. you, the closest uncle i ever had. i basically grew up in your house and spent most of my life there, with you usually there to tease me and joke around with me. you always made me smile with your booming laughter and mean scary sense of humor. i remember when you'd scare me all the time when i was little by putting on a scary devil mask. i'd cry for hours. but i think i'd give anything to see you scare me like that again and fill the room with laughter. i remember how you'd amaze my siblings and i with your 'magic trick.' i could never figure out how you always managed to change a piece of tissue into bubblegum until the end of middle school.

when you were first rushed to the hospital after being diagnosed, i was terrified. but when you began to recover and started to laugh and make jokes about being thrown into a retirement home for rehab, it was like a big relief. i knew you were going to be okay. but as the months passed and i saw how frail you were becoming and how little you were laughing, i knew the inevitable was happening. just seeing you not smiling and laughing was such a sad sight.

after hearing that you were in the hospital dying, hearing my mom cry on the phone, i didn't even know how to react. all i kept thinking in my head was "i should be crying right now" but i couldn't grasp onto the reality of the situation. i never thought the day would come that i'd actually lose someone so close in the family. even at your home, when everyone was comforting tita nely and paying their respects, i didn't entirely know what was going on. i kept on waiting for you to come out and eat with the rest of us. i passed by your bedroom and saw it empty, knowing that you wouldn't be there anymore. its so hard to think that you won't be there anymore during holidays and family parties.

its funny how the world works sometimes. a man so healthy and cautious about his well being, so generous and kind, would be taken from this world so early. a man who had never even touched a cigarette and became a good role model to everyone around him, to be diagnosed with lung cancer. it just goes to show you that cancer doesn't discriminate.

i've decided that i would give up smoking cigarettes for good now. everytime i said i would give it up, it would be because the guy i was seeing at the time would always tell me to stop. but everytime i stopped seeing whoever i had been seeing, i'd go back to the habit. i always told myself that i wouldn't change whatever i was doing because someone told me to. and i still see it that way. but this time, i'm doing it out of respect for the man who shouldn't have been diagnosed with it.

a great man left this world today. and everyone who was lucky enough to know him will miss him greatly.
i love you tito fred. watch over us in heaven, please.
RIP Alfredo Recano 4/6/40 - 6/7/09

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